Another day in paradise

Life as a mom & house wife may not be all that grand to some but in the grand scheme of things -- it's the worlds BEST gift from God.

Besides our health, wealth & general lively hoods, being a parent is one thing some may never get to experience.

Growing up, you never realize what life will be like outside mom & dad. You never really "get it". Once you hit a certain age/maturity level things start to become a little more clear, they did to me anyways :)

Meeting Brian at 115 pounds & as wild as they come, I never though in a MILLION years 2 1/2 years later I'd be his wife, the mother of his 2 month old daughter & 40 pounds heavier(the heaviest I've ever been no less) & playing house everyday. I was one of those, gotta be cute all the time gals & anyone who knows me, knows what I am talking about. Now I'm trading my high heals for comfy shoes, my trendy clothes for discount shopping & sleep for late night feedings & rocking my baby. But with all that I have given up, I have gained SO much.

I didn't know men like Brian(my wonderful husband) even exsisted. I didn't know they could be s kind, loving & gentle. Don't get me wrong HE IS the man of our house, besides the Lord :) He runs our household & I respect him, but he puts me first, which is something I never knew... I had always been second, to friends, trucks, mothers, there was always something that came before me in every relationship I had ever been in & this time it was different.

Daily duties of a housewife ... wow they never end! Laundry, dishes, dusting, taking care of the kids, the pets, paying bills, making life livable more or less -- it's a never ending cycle. People don't give stay at home moms enough credit LOL. It aint easy to say the least, but we have a special gift ;) I applaud any mother who can with stand the housewife title & REALLY do it. It's easy to go to work & leave all the home troubles & chores behind you, to get a break from the little ones & all that, it takes MAJOR strength to do what we do, in my opinion. Babies require round the clock care, crying, feeding, changing, entertaining ... whew it can be exhausting!

Everyday I thank God for all he has given me, which brings me to the qoute "What if you ONLY had today what you thanked God for yesterday?"

So at night I ask the Lord, for just one more day in paradise ...

What kind of mama are ya?

I've been watching people & how they parent their children & it's interesting to me to see all the different styles. I'm still learning where I am at on the totem poll, but it's more clear every day what kind of parent I am. 

I can already say that I am NOT on of those mothers who can never spend a second alone without my little munchkin. I like to have some "me" time. I think it is NEEDED. I want to be a good mother, but I also don't want to lose myself in diaper changing & bottles. I still want to be me, if that make any kind sense. I've noticed that some people can only talk about is poop or nursing, or baby related stuff. YES, I love my child, but hey, I like music! And I like movies, my dog, a good jog through town, going to dinner, writing, coloring, ect. I have plenty to talk about & it doesn't always involve Alexa. She is my world, yes, but that doesn't mean I can't still enjoy other things. I see some mama's talking about how their kids are angels & the perfect baby ... come on, really? Who bys that crap? No baby is perfect. I don't care what you say. I HATE it when they make light of how hard being a new mom is, because all they can say is "my baby is such a good baby" my baby sleeps all night" "my baby never cries" "my baby ....." What new mom who is struggling to survive & not go insane wants to hear that? Ummm ... NOT me! If it weren't for a select few who actually can admit it's hard, I may have just been hauled off to the looney bin, cause I would have lost it if I were the only one suffering the newness of a newborn.

My maternal instincts are pretty good I think. I am not to over bearing, but I do have my moments.  I don't smoke. I don't want people who do smoke to smoke around my child. She hasn't made the choice to smoke so she shouldn't have to suffer through that, right? I don't like for people to touch her, well, strangers of course, but come on if your hands are dirty wash em! Are ya sick, don't breathe on her! Geez! 

It's funny when someone who hasn't held a baby in a while thinks they are cracked glass & if you aren't carefull ..waaaa ooohhh watch out -- she might shatter! lol. Babies are actually pretty hearty little things! 

Another annoying thing ... the "know it all" mother. She is that one who has opinions & thinks everyone should agree with her & if ya don't well be prepared to be on her crap list & to offend her indefinitely! Met a few of these moms in some groups on FB .. Have to say, was not impressed & honestly, they didn't come off wise & knowledgeable, they came off moronic & painfully annoying.

The "hurry up & grow up" moms kill me.

I wish I had more of a childhood than I did. I do .. I don't want Alexa to grow up .. just yet.

I want her to enjoy her childhood, play with dolls & dress up. Get dirty & trample through my flower bed & make soup with make-up in the toilet. Draw on the walls & have imaginary friends .. Isn't that what being a kid is about? Why do some moms want to rush it? From watching bad t.v. shows & movies to shoving soda & junk in their faces. Where are the veggies & juice? How bout cartoons & Disney?  Why are they so eager to have them learn to read at 2 years old? Or start learning another language ... I know this day & time things move a super sonic pace, but where did the times go that when you were a kid, playing & take naps were about the only things on your agenda? **Sigh** Maybe I am just one of a kind.

I'm enjoying motherhood to no end & it only gets better everyday, don't get me wrong it's hard. By far the hardest thing I have ever done, but the reward it priceless. Life is not complete without being a parent. Having a baby is a blessing that not everyone will get to experience & I am so lucky that God picked me to be Alexa's mother, that he trusts in me that much to give me such a great gift!

**Alexa Spring**

 

Wondering who took these photos? :)

I took them! I hate to be bias .. but my baby is the most beautiful thing on Earth!